Is polygamy the answer?


Quite recently i’ve found myself having some very interesting conversations with sisters or women who are fed up with the behaviour of men.  Now before I discuss polygamy i’d like to mention the strongest arguments i’ve heard to date. 

Hugh Hefner can have a TV programme about living with his 3 Girlfriends and no one flickers an eyelid.  A Muslim man decided to have 3/4 wives all hell breaks loose.  But when we look at the rights of these women who looses out?  The Muslim woman is given the right to financial support, cloting, love, time and the list goes on. The Girlfriend walks away with nothing if she gets kicked to the curb.

My next point is the nature of men and women.  Firstly lets look at the Baby Mother Scenario.  I’ve heard and seen all too many times man out on road going to SUPPOSEDLY check on his children.  But my girlfriends tell me that what usually happens is they get weak.  And Queen B plays ignorant until its so apparent she has to speak up or she gets called a door mat. Now I know this is all pointing towards black culture.  But lets talk about THE ASIANS.

Lapdancing clubs and prostitutes i’ll say nomore.  The community usually knows of this ill behaviour and usually the wife, but no one talks of it.  Yet if the man says i’m getting married again all Hell breaks loose. 

So now i’ve stated the strongest points i’ll get tot the point.  Sisters are struggling and when they look at polygamy it seems very attractive but the prob is good men are hard to find.  And most of the sisters i’ve approached about this topic say ‘Hell no, am I sharing my man’.  So in the mean time, the man suppresses his natural desire to get married if it occurs, and sisters who need to get married start fasting.  But when it all gets too much for everyone! BAM! Fornication and Adultry.


But if Sisters thought differently, loving for your sister what you love for yourself, they’d be urging theirr husband to find another wife.  Because it is truly a blessing to alleviate another sister of her woes especially when another brother has mistreated her to a degree you may know or not know.  It is Quran and Sunnah and i’ve seen many practice it and enjoy it. 

This brings me to my last part of this post.  The sisters I’ve discussed polygamy with are single parents who have lost their respect for men due to their mistreatment.  They are content with little and ask for little.  So is polygamy the anwer for these sisters?



About iamshalina Shalina Litt was in the music business from the age of 15 years old and it wasn't until around 2006 that life took a big turn for her. She graduated with a BA Hons in Early Childhood Studies eager to do right by my son. Around 2006 she embraced Islam and took on a calmer lifestyle getting married and focusing on being a mother alongside a business woman. Her marriage dissolved due to domestic Violence in 2009 and she retook a different path learning how to rebuild my self esteem and confidence. This journey allowed Shalina to share her growth via blogs and vlogs building a large following around the topic of abuse. Around 2011 her career as a Radio Presenter at Unity FM began. As her confidence grew, she decided to speak out in international media defending the rights of Women and Hijab. This lead her to successfully be present in Media covering newspaper, TV, Radio and Magazines in addition to have been in a successful documentary done about 6 Muslim women from around the world by a TV Production Team (NRL) from the Netherlands. This public platform allowed her to be vocal about various heart felt topics through Social media and other broadcasting opportunities. As a result Shalina now coaches women around the topic of Abuse Resolution. She continues to appear in mainstream media discussing various topics around Islam and women. She also runs her own business providing Inclusive Islamic Education for SEND Children. She is currently recording an album and writing a book, both due to be released in 2017 God Willing. For more details or to contact Shalina Litt email

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