I remember sitting in a masjid listening to a talk. There I saw the sister sitting next to me engroced in her little Forty Hadith Book. A thought came to my mind and I shared it with her as I laughed. She asked me what it was and I said that book is interesting, because all of those Hadith have tested me as i’ve progressed through life.
As a single Muslimah life is different, you have more room for contemplation, socialising and generally are quite self centred because you haven’t really at this point exercised anything different. So obedience to Allah is often Sweet.
Then, you get married. Lol. Now to those sisters that are happily married then I’m happy for you really, and I hope you are greatful. But for some, marriage as a woman is a test, because our ticket to jannah has been determined by very few things. Obedience to your husband is one of them. So suddenly you tread new territory. And the forty hadith are applied with an increase of intensity that some pass and some fail.
Then there is the third level of intensity, shall we call it. When your husband tells you he wants to get married again. Now this is where your tawheed is put in check. Are you going to walk away from a man who wants to do something Allah has permitted him to do so. And don’t get me wrong, there are some brothers that need to just sit down and fast because they are not able to provide for one wife let alone another. But if they are able, who is the wife to argue.
As Allah SWT tells us, do you think you will not be tested and you can just say you believe’?
I must contact that sister I heard she got married Masha Allah