I never seen it as a big issue that I was raised in a single parent family. I watched my mom all my life, and just thought it was the done thing. And then I became a mom!
So many of my friends have ended up in this testing situation. Some are awful at it, and smoke their way through the whole expereince, letting their children raise themselves no sooner than they can talk and walk.
And then you have the single moms that work so hard to the point that their back hurts, their feet ache and their eyes become heavy craving an opportunity to put up their feet and wave a white flag.
Either way, nobody goes out of their way to find themselves in this situation. But when faced with it, a choice has to be made. Some will just Feel sorry for themselves and never take the time necessary to ensure they never find themselves in the same predicament. Others make a commitment to protect themselves and their children from the stero typical scencario of underclass, working class famillies.
The endurance necessary to prevent this outcome is not always available. But the chance to pray is always within reach. How I wish I could unleash the names of these strong women who have inspired me and are always there for others through their trials. It took me a while to write this post although the burning passion to write about it has always been there. My mom has most definatley been an inspiration for me, and I can only thank her now by showering her with my love at a time where she is now old and frail.
Through the tears, heartache and pain, we often forget our children observe us all the way. So I just want to send out some serious love to the single mothers out there. Your children may not see your worth now, but when its the right time they’ll see and remember that through it all you smiled and never complained.
‘After hardship comes ease’ (94:6)