You can be lonely, even when your married!


Lonliness has got to me one of the most difficult things to deal with.  Cause when your alone, all those thoughts that you’ve pushed way way way way way back to the back of your head float to the fore front of your mind.  What ever it is you feel uncomfortable dealing with or thinking about will eventually want to be addressed.  And if you don’t address it, it will manifest in someother way.

Some people start smoking, drinking, eating, shopping, going to the gym, hitting the clubs, WHATEVER IT TAKES just to avoid thinking about what ever it is.

But when you finally accept that you need to address it, you can feel so liberated once you’ve worked through it.

I’ve spoken to married women who cry about how lonely and unloved they feel.  Single women who state the same, the only difference is they don’t have to cook for a man and wash his clothes lol.  And as for men, they get lonely too, and their additional fixes often involve having affairs with other women. And I reckon it comes down to one thing. 


So be your best friend and be real to yourself.  Let what ever it is thats eating away at you come to the surface.  Write it down and then look at it.  Be your best friend and look after yourself by giving yourself the answer.

People who want to be loved or need to be loved, often look after other people better than they do themselves.

My advice to me was give my affairs to Allah, because nothing or anything is going to rectify my affairs other than Allah SWT.


About iamshalina Shalina Litt was in the music business from the age of 15 years old and it wasn't until around 2006 that life took a big turn for her. She graduated with a BA Hons in Early Childhood Studies eager to do right by my son. Around 2006 she embraced Islam and took on a calmer lifestyle getting married and focusing on being a mother alongside a business woman. Her marriage dissolved due to domestic Violence in 2009 and she retook a different path learning how to rebuild my self esteem and confidence. This journey allowed Shalina to share her growth via blogs and vlogs building a large following around the topic of abuse. Around 2011 her career as a Radio Presenter at Unity FM began. As her confidence grew, she decided to speak out in international media defending the rights of Women and Hijab. This lead her to successfully be present in Media covering newspaper, TV, Radio and Magazines in addition to have been in a successful documentary done about 6 Muslim women from around the world by a TV Production Team (NRL) from the Netherlands. This public platform allowed her to be vocal about various heart felt topics through Social media and other broadcasting opportunities. As a result Shalina now coaches women around the topic of Abuse Resolution. She continues to appear in mainstream media discussing various topics around Islam and women. She also runs her own business providing Inclusive Islamic Education for SEND Children. She is currently recording an album and writing a book, both due to be released in 2017 God Willing. For more details or to contact Shalina Litt email

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