Now this topic came up the other day while I was sitting with a group of sisters. And it seemed the answer was not to immediatley say, ‘ASTAGFIRULLAH, you can’t be gay and muslim!’
Now I ain’t no expert but this topic has come up many times and I believe that the best advice to offer is for one focus on why you are a muslim, not what it takes to be a muslim. The question why I am a muslim only leads one to understand the 5 most important things. As Prophet Muhammed (Peace be upon him) said, ‘Islam is built upon five’.
To be a muslim you must:
Testify there is no God worthy of worship except Allah and Prophet Muhammed (SAW) is the last Prophet.
Secondly to pray 5 times a day
Thirdly to give Zakat (charity if able)
Fourth to fast in the month of Ramadan
Fifth to go on a pilgramage to Meccah (if you can afford it)
One can only acquire these things by taking time out to read and become certain and firm in these pillars.
Eemaan (Faith) is the testification of the tongue, limbs and heart. The heart governs both the tongue and the limbs, so once knowledge has been gained something will begin to happen God Willing.
The person will grow to Love Allah and naturally be inclined to follow what is commanded.
Everyone has their tests, whether it be alcohol, money or their sexual appetite. But we can only get stronger in obeying the commands of our Lord if we know our Lord.