You should let me love you


I hear it all the time, ‘learn to love yoursef’, and I’ve always thought what a bunch of nonsense.  However since embarking on my new lifestyle, loving one’s self has become an issue that I have to face whether I like it or not!

I look around and realize my life reflects the decisions I’ve made and how much I love myself.  For example the man I choose to wake up with every morning for the rest of my life, the food I choose to eat, the habits I choose to induldge in.  All of these things once examined reflect how much I love myself. 

If you ending up getting treated like crap by the man you wake up with every morning, then you allow that behaviour so love your self enough to set your expectations.  If the food you eat is all brown and you look round and old, you allowed that.  And if you find yourself lighting up a cigarette or having a little tipple every now and then ask yourself what am I avoiding.

Facing upto our problems has to be one of the most challenging things one can do.  Because in order to change, sometimes you have to accept the truth and that is no one is to blame for your life but you.  I remember a quote from Joan Collins book, where she said she treated her life like a movie, when someone got on her nerves she’d just edit them out. 

So this is me taking a good look at myself and loving myself enough to know what I need to do to put things right.  One of the biggest things standing in the way of loving myself was me!  Which is why I titled this blogg you should let me love you.  I’ve decided to love myself as much as I do other people.


About iamshalina Shalina Litt was in the music business from the age of 15 years old and it wasn't until around 2006 that life took a big turn for her. She graduated with a BA Hons in Early Childhood Studies eager to do right by my son. Around 2006 she embraced Islam and took on a calmer lifestyle getting married and focusing on being a mother alongside a business woman. Her marriage dissolved due to domestic Violence in 2009 and she retook a different path learning how to rebuild my self esteem and confidence. This journey allowed Shalina to share her growth via blogs and vlogs building a large following around the topic of abuse. Around 2011 her career as a Radio Presenter at Unity FM began. As her confidence grew, she decided to speak out in international media defending the rights of Women and Hijab. This lead her to successfully be present in Media covering newspaper, TV, Radio and Magazines in addition to have been in a successful documentary done about 6 Muslim women from around the world by a TV Production Team (NRL) from the Netherlands. This public platform allowed her to be vocal about various heart felt topics through Social media and other broadcasting opportunities. As a result Shalina now coaches women around the topic of Abuse Resolution. She continues to appear in mainstream media discussing various topics around Islam and women. She also runs her own business providing Inclusive Islamic Education for SEND Children. She is currently recording an album and writing a book, both due to be released in 2017 God Willing. For more details or to contact Shalina Litt email

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