Advice to a daughter, crash course soloution?!


Just got back from Craig Pinkney’s showing of ‘Advice to a daughter’, excellent event as it really highlighted the problems young girls often face like domestic violence, early pregnancies and sexual abuse.

So what is the answer? My crash course to finding the soloution (just my opinon)

1) Get to know them (the young person), what do they get emotional gratification out of in order to fill the emotional void caused usually by some form of abuse that has damaged their self worth from an early childhood experience!

2) Once you’ve identified what their fix is, for example smoking weed, start their emotional fitness training. You can’t just say stop smoking and start loving yourself. Both courses of action take time and endurance which is what we need to support them through the process of loving themselves to make the right choices.

3) Educate them on how they can retrain themselves to rebuild their self belief and self worth. Now in order to determine what is the most affective cause of action we have to replicate a healthy connection that can rewrite their attitudes and beliefs.

4) Emotional gratification can be found in many things, smoking, drinking, clubbing, music, fitness, self harming and the list goes on. Some are temporary, and some are only fueled by negative messages that speak to the sub consciounce and govern how they cope and behave in everyday situations. Some need to be replaced completely like smoking, but some just need to be altered so the benfits are clear to see.

My final point is some professionals will go to work and be the inspiring role models young people need to change their lifestyles. However these same role models may have their own emotional fitness training to address and often indulge in the temporary gratifications that they advice others to stay away from like smoking weed. Therefore it is dangerous to advice anyone to become dependant on something or one that may only leave them in the same place they started once absent. It is therefore imperitive that we develop young people to find emotional gratification that can only encourage them to become stronger from within. Ultimatley how much we love ourselves is reflected in the choices we make. We have to find a way to help young people reconnect with themselves and find emotional gratification from doing so.

My journey through life is what has given me the ability to decipher life and determine and assess how i’ll make the right choices for myself. Everyday I endure what is necessary to achieve what benefits myself and my family. But in order to get to this place I had to learn what I was contending with. Many successful organisations make it their business to know you better than you know yourself. The only thing they often gain is your desire to give them every last penny you have, including your soul should you choose to offer or comply with the many delights of this world. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER, so go get it and use it to make informed choices and not just choices.

Here is the trailer

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About iamshalina Shalina Litt was in the music business from the age of 15 years old and it wasn't until around 2006 that life took a big turn for her. She graduated with a BA Hons in Early Childhood Studies eager to do right by my son. Around 2006 she embraced Islam and took on a calmer lifestyle getting married and focusing on being a mother alongside a business woman. Her marriage dissolved due to domestic Violence in 2009 and she retook a different path learning how to rebuild my self esteem and confidence. This journey allowed Shalina to share her growth via blogs and vlogs building a large following around the topic of abuse. Around 2011 her career as a Radio Presenter at Unity FM began. As her confidence grew, she decided to speak out in international media defending the rights of Women and Hijab. This lead her to successfully be present in Media covering newspaper, TV, Radio and Magazines in addition to have been in a successful documentary done about 6 Muslim women from around the world by a TV Production Team (NRL) from the Netherlands. This public platform allowed her to be vocal about various heart felt topics through Social media and other broadcasting opportunities. As a result Shalina now coaches women around the topic of Abuse Resolution. She continues to appear in mainstream media discussing various topics around Islam and women. She also runs her own business providing Inclusive Islamic Education for SEND Children. She is currently recording an album and writing a book, both due to be released in 2017 God Willing. For more details or to contact Shalina Litt email

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