The war of the broken hearted ‘A woman’s scorn’


I could relate many stories where people have surrended their everything and sacrificed themselves till they can give no more, and the one they love still walks away.  Some end retionships leaving their besotted with dignity and self respect.  Whislt their are some who have no mercy. 

I’ve heard of the occasional man whose heart has been broken and has never loved the same there after. However I’ve also heard of the stories where women are left broken.  The best one’s have to be when the birth of ‘the woman’s scorn’ arrives. 

One that comes to mind is when a woman picked up a brick and hurtled it at a window, only to realise it was double glazed, so she’d only broke one pane of glass.  I felt her pain and twich of embarassment as she told me her story,

Be scared men, be very scared, because all to often when a woman breaks, as far as she is concerned ‘theirs nothing to loose’.  When this happens my friend, run for your life, move out the country, or crawl on your knees begging for her forgiveness, anything is better than ‘a woman’s scorn’.

The aftermath can only be described as an unfortunate chain of events, where we often see people eager to enter into new relationships, but still bearing the wounds of past relationships gone wrong.  When this happens couples go backwards and forwards looking for blame.

I think we can only take responsibility for ourselves and the desicions we make.  If we love ourselves enough, we’ll allow ourselves to heal and then forgive ourselves for getting it wrong. Only then can we enter into a relationship ready to treat a man worthy of being treated like a king, because he recognises his Queen has arrived.


About iamshalina Shalina Litt was in the music business from the age of 15 years old and it wasn't until around 2006 that life took a big turn for her. She graduated with a BA Hons in Early Childhood Studies eager to do right by my son. Around 2006 she embraced Islam and took on a calmer lifestyle getting married and focusing on being a mother alongside a business woman. Her marriage dissolved due to domestic Violence in 2009 and she retook a different path learning how to rebuild my self esteem and confidence. This journey allowed Shalina to share her growth via blogs and vlogs building a large following around the topic of abuse. Around 2011 her career as a Radio Presenter at Unity FM began. As her confidence grew, she decided to speak out in international media defending the rights of Women and Hijab. This lead her to successfully be present in Media covering newspaper, TV, Radio and Magazines in addition to have been in a successful documentary done about 6 Muslim women from around the world by a TV Production Team (NRL) from the Netherlands. This public platform allowed her to be vocal about various heart felt topics through Social media and other broadcasting opportunities. As a result Shalina now coaches women around the topic of Abuse Resolution. She continues to appear in mainstream media discussing various topics around Islam and women. She also runs her own business providing Inclusive Islamic Education for SEND Children. She is currently recording an album and writing a book, both due to be released in 2017 God Willing. For more details or to contact Shalina Litt email

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