Picture this…You walk into to her house, a beautiful aroma greets you. The Carpet is freshly hoovered, the table looks fit for immediate first class dining. Bedding smells fresh, all clothese are ironed. Fridge is full with healthy snacks, dinner is prepared! And there she is the woman of the house looking fabulous. Hair groomed, nails manicured, stunning outfit, with her children at her side, looking just as shiny and brand new.
Isn’t this the perfect little picture, and so many women acheive this, and well… I applaud you ladies I do. So recently I set out to achieve this little fantasy, can’t be that hard, can it?
Well it can, and it takes the ultimate self sacrifice! I wrote a post recently highlighting the importance of making time for yourself, but I must add in order to achieve this we must be very regimental and ready to put our famillies before other people.
Its only been a couple of weeks and already i’m seeing the benefits. I’m not saying I neglected my children, I do my best however, during these holidays I realised I can do more.
This week I took my children out to a nature centre, prior to reaching our destination we stopped for lunch. Just as we were finishing I recieved a phonecall from work. ‘I’m just going to stop by the office’, I told my son. He’s response hit me hard, ‘I knew this would happen’. Right there I realised my son had accepted who I was, but for a tiny shimmer of a moment he vented a frustration that he wanted more.
We went to the nature centre and the world didn’t end because I didn’t go to work. My new schedule is very much built around my children, and although it gives me little time to myself (which is totally needed and very important) I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Only God knows the endurance and determination it takes to be there for your children at times when you just want to be looked after yourself. But interestingly enough ‘what goes around comes around’, and if you invest in your children the way you should, when your hour of need arrives in old age and you have to be dependant on them. Hopefully they’ll understand the sacrifices they have to make, without any hesitiation.