I live in one of those areas that has a reputation for drugs, gangs and violence. You speak to any of the parents on the road they all have the same dreams. “I want my child to have a good education, and to stay out of trouble”.
Getting a University education begins to change how you see the world. All of a sudden everything around you is either a theory, a statistic or possible dissertation. Fearful of what will happen if my son hangs out with the local children too much, my house has become an open house, allowing the children to eat, laugh, listen to music and talk.
Every now and then I’ll listen to the conversations and occasionally come in and reason with them when I see their train of thought been robbed by the evil plotting of other agendas.
My motivation for today’s blog is about the reality single parents in particular have to deal with on a day to day basis. Especially when ‘daddy’ is no where to be found or bothered or just a waste of space!
Is it possible for a single parent to raise her child and protect them from the many outcomes that call and attract them to do an injustice to themselves.
“You need to make it your business to know who your children are, cos in the mean time other people are making it their business to know your children better than you do” (Shalina Litt)
The more I become acquainted with the dynamics of the community the more I see our resilience to focus on what comes out of our circumstance rather than dealing with the root of the problem.
Yesterday I attended a book launch by my dear respected brother Dr Martin Glynn who discussed ‘The invisibility of the Blackman and Crime’. Amidst the talk we were all presented with a diagram which was called the ‘The New Moon Framework’, it demonstrated the transitions that the ‘Blackman’ goes through when entering the criminal justice system. The bit that caught me was the ‘Re Entry to the community’, this part of the process was identified as been vital to the rehabilitation to someone coming out of prison.
I contemplated the reality of this model, that been, the community at present does not have a space or solid structure in place to help support this model or anyone who comes out of prison, and if there is I struggle as a practitioner to clearly allocate someone to these groups or spaces.
And finally I strongly believe more has to be done to prevent young people going down this route in the first place. Single mothers appear to be fighting the same battles all over the town. The event I attended had nothing but males giving their contributions as to what is necessary for us to move forward.
I know many mothers who have been successful at raising their children in the very areas I mentioned at the beginning of this blog, and although they’ve made many sacrifices, they’ve succeeded to raise their children and help them access the careers that they dreamt about.
Isn’t it time we had a space for these strong women to deliver what it will take to break the chains that still seem to have us walking to another man’s tune!???